10 October 2016

A Trapped Mind in a Free Country.



It has been a while since I have written anything aside from reports and text messages. Certainly, I have not contributed to this blog in a very long time. It is a shame. I have too much to say about my life in Korea, but sadly have not taken the time out of my busy life to allow my brain to relax in the best way it knows how: writing.

What inspired me to visit this blog today? Well, today, enough was enough. I need to get my thoughts down. Today, I feel like I could scream. I want to talk about it with someone. I love my friends here, but we know Korea well. I want to write about my experience online, so that those who have no prior knowledge of Korea might understand what it’s like living and teaching as a foreigner here.

In the future, I hope I can write about the bad and the good. There are so many good aspects of this country and this culture (you may have seen my past blog posts, which were written during the Korea-is-life-and-can-do-no-wrong phase of my life and are therefore all positive). I want all of you to come here. I miss you all, and I want to share my life here with you. Korea – this time around – has given me a whole new perspective on life, on work and on friendship. It has been a fruitful experience that has made me feel like almost a completely different person within. Outside of my school life, I feel happy, fulfilled and the most free I have ever been.

Alas, today, in my pitchfork-bearing state, I wish to vent a little.

At this place (my school), you sort of just auto-pilot your way through the day. Most days are fine. Most days, you just carefully tip-toe from class A to class B, sidestepping any trouble until you leave at 7pm, unnoticed. But on other days, everything seems to hit you at once, and it tests you. It’s like all of the Korean teachers, parents and kids get together and say, “Okay, so we have these problems with the foreign teachers. Let’s wait until a day when they suspect nothing and then just bombard them with it all at once.” It means, on the positive side, that we have many ‘okay’, uneventful days. But on the other hand, it means that all the negativity finds us at once.

The parents of the kids at this school, of course, only care about one thing: their children. So, if their child comes home complaining about something, naturally they get sad for their child. However, as I have witnessed, instead of talking to the child themselves, they sometimes blame the teachers at the school for whatever it is that the child is upset about. And, given that the Korean teachers’ classes are known to be strict and to enforce discipline, most of the drama happens in the foreign teachers’ classrooms (our direct instructions as foreign English teachers is to be “the fun teachers”). So, we often have the Korean teachers approach us with some issue that the parents have complained about. You see, the Korean parents can’t talk to us about it because of the language barrier. So instead, they have to talk about us to the Korean teachers. That in itself already evokes a sort of out-of the-loop, upsetting feeling on our end, as you would get if you found out that someone was talking about you behind your back.

The result is that the Korean teachers will walk up to us in the middle of the day and say things such as:
  • “Kristin, why didn't you give homework to Johnny last night?”
  • “Kristin, Sarah has been picking her nose lately. Have you been allowing her to do this in your class?”
  • “Kristin, why did you finish your class two minutes early yesterday?”
  • “Kristin, you need to have better posture in class. You don’t look happy enough.”
  • “Kristin, little Jackie went home yesterday and pretended to smoke a cigarette. The mother would like to know if you taught her this in your class.”
  • “Kristin, the 4-year-olds play too often in your class.”
  • “Kristin, the songs you teach them are too easy. The parents can’t see progress if you teach them easy songs.”
  • “Kristin, you need to serve the rice on the left side of the plate instead of the right.” 
  • “Kristin, we employed you to be fun, not to correct the students’ behaviour” (meanwhile, Sally and Erica are bullying little Johnny in the corner and I’m supposed to keep my mouth shut about it).
You will notice, I’m sure, that hardly any of these complaints are in reference to my actual job, which is teaching English as a second language. And this happens to be a job of which I believe I am highly capable and at which I have been quite successful.

We (my co-worker Corlia and I) have worked very hard. In fact, I do not believe that I knew the true definition of “hard work” before I came here. I don’t say that to brag – in fact, I know that the standard life of any teacher is tough. As a teacher, it’s not irregular to have a curve-ball thrown at you when you least expect it. The difference is, however, the environment which surrounds you.

Korean private academies (we call them 'Hagwons') are independently run. This means that they have no connection to the government whatsoever. The rules, conditions and atmosphere are decided only by the principal of the school. It’s essentially a privately-owned business. And because there are so many Hagwons in Seoul, it is easy for the mistreatment of employees to get swept under the rug (especially at small schools like mine).

For example, my regular hours are from 9:30 - 6:40pm. This, in itself, is no problem. But I have worked frequently from 9:30 until 3pm -- dealing only with small kindergarten children -- without a single break. In Australia, this would just not fly. I have also stayed at school from 9am until 9pm without getting paid overtime.  I have sat in the boss’ office and endured 40 minutes of him yelling at me without opening my mouth or even being asked my opinion. I have had new students join my class without notice. I have been hospitalized, placed on an IV drip for 3 hours and made to go into work that same day. We work hard all day and receive no positive feedback or even recognition that we are doing the right thing. 6 different staff members, out of a total of 13, have quit since I've arrived. We receive no more than a “hello” from the bosses on most days, and often they won’t talk to us unless we are doing something wrong (this might be understandable if it were a large office, but our school is tiny and the boss’ office is situated directly opposite from ours). We are given deadlines that we have to meet, and then our break-times are taken away from us. Things are miscommunicated and unorganized on a daily basis, and often we get in trouble for things that are simply not our fault. We were even thrown into the classroom on our first day without any training. When I first came to the school, I just could not handle it. I remember having a breakdown at school. I remember crying the first time I saw my parents’ faces on Skype. I remember asking God, “How? How can I get through this year?”

But here I am: living proof that humans can get used to anything, no matter how tough it is. Even just last week, after 7 months of working here, Corlia and I came back from a coffee break to find the boss waiting for us. He told us that we are not allowed to leave the building during our break times, that the break times are strictly for "preparing class material", and that “this has been the rule all along” (which it most certainly has not). It made us angry. A break time should be a break FROM work, should it not? Why are we not allowed to grab a coffee at the coffee shop that is literally a 10-second walk from our school?

Corlia questioning the meaning of life on our
final day of school holidays.
Alas (perhaps unfortunately) Corlia and I are used to it now. Nothing has changed, but we have learnt not to take anything personally in this place. This realization has made a world of difference to us. Most importantly, we have learnt to lean on each other in times of need. I thank God every day that I am not alone in this. Corlia has been my savior in many ways.

We often take for granted that which we are given when no hard work is necessary to obtain it. No job comes without hard work. But I must say, I definitely took for granted the comfortable, supportive, somewhat-laid-back work environments of the jobs I had in Sydney. And more than anything, I appreciate the efforts to which my bosses went to create such environments. My Aussie bosses always took interest in what I had to say and made me feel like a valued member of their staff. The difference made even by a simple “hey, how are you today?” is astounding. Above all, I have learnt that a happy work environment makes a productive work environment. Working while sick, demeaned, under-appreciated or under pressure can have an astonishingly negative effect on not just the body, but the mind of the worker.

I’ve lost sleep at night wondering how a boss can possibly go the whole day without smiling at his/her employees, let alone failing to even check in during their first few months in a new job and country.

Please don’t take this report as fact regarding all jobs in Korea. I do believe that Hagwons are your worst possible option when teaching here, given that it’s up to sheer luck whether you’ll get a good school or a bad school (I’ve heard praise from some and absolute horror stories from others). Also, I have been fortunate enough to have been blessed with a couple of very understanding Korean co-teachers who go that extra mile to make us feel okay (one of them bought me soup when I was sick!). If I didn't have these girls with me, and God to guide me, I would quite honestly be lost. Furthermore, I believe that my circumstance may be an exception, in the same way that there are bound to be bad jobs no matter the country in which you choose to work.

My friends and I have toyed with the idea of starting a Revolution: somehow bringing to light the mistreatment of teachers in (some) private academies across Korea. Too much gets swept under the rug. But we are almost powerless to change it. When I think about it, it disheartens me to the core. 

Nevertheless, I want to do my part, by sharing our story and spreading awareness. Teaching in Korea has many, many benefits for foreigners, and the number of foreigners is increasing every year. If you are reading this in the hope of moving to Korea, do not lose hope. There are brilliant opportunities for you. But you cannot just accept the first job that comes your way. Do your research. There is nothing more important.


For the rest of you, I merely wish to share with you my experiences, as well as the realisations to which I have come, having worked in such a place. After all, we will all experience what it’s like to have a job at some point in our lives, in the same way that we are likely to witness some form of workplace discrimination in our time. And in a changing world – one which is placing a heavier emphasis on me, myself and I as the days go on – we ought not to forget the importance of all parties in the workplace: whether it be the big boss who faces all kinds of stress on shockingly frequent levels, or the small, young man starting out on his first day of work; ambitious, perhaps ignorant, but every bit as important as the rest of us.



Note: Please excuse the extremely generic photo of a classroom at the top of this post. I want my school to remain anonymous.

1 September 2016

The Dream.

Note: The below post was written (but not published) in early 2016. Today, I post it on the 2nd of September, 6 months into my stay.

My dear readers,

I have not written on this blog for over a year. Perhaps it was because I had nothing more to say, or perhaps it was because I didn't want to taint the fond and perfect memory that it was.

Alas, today, I AM BACK. Why?! BECAUSE I'M GOING BACK TO KOREA! WOOO!!

Yes, my dear friends. I, Kristin, have secured an English teaching job in Seoul, and will be moving there in precisely 21 days. I've worked flipping hard to get here, and finally it is happening. I get to live my dream!

I am SO keen for such an amazingly different journey in the country I have grown to love. For those of you who don't know, I did take a trip back to Korea in June of 2015 for 1 month, and it refreshed my love for the place. I got to do some travelling and saw all my lovely Korean friends again; as well as some of my foreign friends who were still there!

So, this will be take 3! Which, unfortunately, disproves the theory "You Only Korea Once" (YOKO), as coined by my cute little friendship group from our beloved Fall Semester '14.

And I haven't even told you the best part! Wait for it........... Tinika will also be there!! HOW GOOD IS LIFE?!?! That's right, my dearest Swede and past-roommate-of-four-months is currently in Korea studying the language for 1 year, and thus will be joining me for a full 9 months of my full year-long stay!

It has been over a year since I've seen the lovely Tinika, but frequent letters and daily Kakao chats have kept our friendship warm. We have formed such a strong, unique bond and I can't believe that I will be seeing her again in the flesh so soon!!! Will we be roommates this time? Unfortunately not. A cruel 20-minute subway ride will separate us... But it will never keep us apart!

And so, my lovely friends, let this be a testament to how great life is. If you compare this post with my last, you will see a stark contrast in tone, as a currently-way-too-excited-Kristin faces her heartbroken, shell-of-a-self from just over a year ago.

Time heals all wounds, my friends. And I thank God for that! ^^

To the days ahead, and whatever life throws our way!

Signed in Sydney,
Kristin

21 December 2014

The End of This Chapter



I honestly don’t know how to begin to describe the time that I have spent here in Korea. I knew the day would come when I had to say goodbye. But now, that day is staring me right in the face, and I feel a sick feeling in my stomach thinking about everything that I am leaving behind. I have made two hundred new friends from around the globe, and have formed strong bonds with so many amazing people, but nothing could have prepared me for the pain that I have felt when forced to lose them all in one day. It is a truly unique kind of heartbreak.

To all the students of Sogang Fall Semester 2014, I have loved every single one of you in different ways, and I will never forget the times we shared together. Sogang University will always be such a beautiful place to me, because it holds only positive memories: all of your smiling faces, the strong bonds we formed out of nothing, those nights we spent dreaming together and making large, ridiculous plans for the future, the nights that we partied, the nights that we just stayed in, our tears when we laughed, our tears when we said goodbye, and those times when we smiled at people we’d never met because even though they were complete strangers, we knew that they were family.

You have all helped me to grow as an individual. I am not afraid to be who I am, I am not afraid to acknowledge my faults, I am not afraid of what people might think, and I am not afraid to feel! I want you all to know that I have loved spending time with you, and that this is a truly tragic day for me. But I also know that it was perfect just the way it was, because my time spent with you is now a perfectly wrapped gift of memories, which from this day forward, I will be able to unwrap at any moment in my life. The time was precious, and even though it is over, it is far from dead.

So let us be positive! We have formed lifelong friendships, and we have all grown as individuals. True, we will never again know the same life that we have lived in Seoul, but think of all the people who will never experience what we have experienced here. God blessed us all by giving us this extremely rare opportunity, and a whole new book of stories to tell!

I know that I will never see some of you again, but I can promise you that I will never forget your faces. Because even though time flew by, and even though I shared no more than a nod of the head with some of you, Sogang to me was always a place of complete happiness; a place free of judgment, a place free of hatred, and a place where two hundred complete strangers could come together in love and join their lives as one.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
-      -- Dr. Seuss

Signed in Seoul and love always,

Kristin

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade

16 December 2014

My Birthday in Seoul

Hello friends!

Recently it was my birthday, and I had a fantastic day with my closest friends in Korea. My roommate took me to some places to which she knew I wanted to travel, one of which was the YG Entertainment building in Hapjeong.

I made a video of this adventure for our ZISSpop channel, so you can view our shenanigans below ^.^


The night before my birthday, my friends were kind enough to take me to a cafe that I had not seen before, called "Cafe Poem". It was super cute and we had a lot of fun. Clearly they have paid attention to my cravings for new cafes. I cannot get enough of the cafes in Seoul!

The rest of my birthday involved brunch with my dear friend KiJoong (before my roommate Tinika woke up :p), pho with my Tinika (a favourite cuisine of mine!), mass at the Catholic church on campus, a Skype call with my family, a late-night birthday cake with my favourites and then ANOTHER cafe called "Coffeesmith" for midnight coffee (no regrets). I then stayed awake for a prolonged period of time watching pointless YouTube videos.

I also was blessed that my kind friends gave me some lovely gifts, most of which were snow-themed thanks to my newly-discovered love for snow! Thank you to my friends for the gifts and to my family in Australia for the lovely card.

Overall, a brilliant, intimate birthday with my closest friends; the activities of which proved that they truly do know me!

My life in Seoul is coming to an end and I am coming to terms with the fact that soon, I will have to say "see you later" to the dear friends that I have made here (note, I didn't write "goodbye"!).

Thank you for all your beautiful birthday messages. Keen to see your faces soon!

Signed in Seoul,
Kristin

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade

10 December 2014

The 10 strangest things about life in South Korea: Part 1

So I am getting to the point where I have spent enough time in Korea to feel like I am qualified to write posts like this.

Below is a list of observations I have made concerning things that I find particularly strange about life in Korea. Not all of you will find these things strange, but given that I am used to Sydney life, I couldn't help but pick up on a few things about Korea that are quite different from Australia. So please, read on, and I hope that you may discover something new about Korea from this post.

Note: This post will come in 2 parts, because otherwise it would be too long and therefore too much of a commitment for you to read.

1. The fact that it is normal to pass out anywhere.
I mean this in two senses: both napping and being intoxicated. Blackout Korea means that people can pass out/nap anywhere without getting judged or abused by the public. The fact that there are several Facebook pages and blog posts dedicated to this worldwide is an indication of how much of a Thing it is. I have taken around 40 photos myself of people passed out in Korea, mostly because I have been amazed at the lack of shame. Take a look at some of my photos below.


The upside: Come on, how awesome is it that you can nap anywhere without judgement?! I have taken advantage of this more times than I care to admit.

2. The fact that bins are extremely rare.
I mean, they have bins of course but I am constantly baffled at how rare they are. In my first few weeks, I could happily get a take-away coffee, blissfully unaware of the fact that once I had finished said coffee, I would have to CARRY THE EMPTY CUP IN MY HAND FOR AN HOUR BEFORE I CAME ACROSS A BIN. It's not like Sydney, where on the streets there are bins every 100 metres. No, coming across a bin on the street is like winning the lottery. It is genuinely something to be happy about. The only places guaranteed to have bins at least 90% of the time are coffee shops (and you can't really use those without buying a coffee or pulling a sneaky throw-and-dash), take-away places and restaurants (both of which are a gamble anyway).

It is very strange to me, because when you walk the streets, you often come across garbage heaps where people have placed their trash, and it looks really gross. Like, why not just PUT BINS ON THE STREET!? The other day, I was walking the streets with a coffee in my hand and I was fortunate enough to come across one of the rare street-bins. So, I legitimately stopped, stood there right next to the bin and finished my coffee -- even though I still had a good half a cup to go -- because I wanted to avoid the empty-cup struggle. I stood there like a moron, finishing my coffee, and then I had to speed up the process so that I wasn't standing there too long, so I didn't really even get to enjoy that last bit of coffee. Maybe I'm an idiot, but the struggle is just too real. Funnily enough, I have actually seen people do this same thing several times.

The upside: You can place bets with your friends about when the next bin will show itself. (I have never done this, I just couldn't think of an upside.)

3. The fact that fitting rooms are equally as rare.
This one makes me emotional. As a tall woman in Korea -- scratch that, as a woman in general -- I need to try on my clothes before I buy them. And Korea has just not delivered in this department. Shopping is very cheap, yes, but it's sort of a stab in the back because whilst there are so many awesome clothing items for dirt cheap prices, there is more often than not nowhere to try them on. Because of this, shopping is such a bitter-sweet experience. Sometimes, I have raged against the machine and attempted to try on items of clothing within the store DESPITE the lack of change rooms, but I am almost always told off by the shop assistants, who are like 'NO TRY. NO TRY.' I am convinced that they are out to ruin lives.

The upside: It stops you from losing all your money. Also, after living here for a while you can sort of get a feel for how to judge whether things will fit you or not.

4. The selfie culture/the fact that there are mirrors everywhere/the fact that everyone is well-dressed.
It is no secret that Korea craves the aesthetics. Clothing stores are plentiful and almost everyone seems up-to-date with the latest fashions. What I find extremely strange, however, is their placement of mirrors. They are just everywhere! To some extent, it is nice to have mirrors in convenient places, but a lot of the time in Korea, I'm like... "Why?! Why do you need a mirror there?!" 

For example, I have found mirrors in almost every elevator, large mirrors in waiting rooms, full-length mirrors outside elevators, in cafes, and my personal favourite, full-length mirrors in toilet cubicles so that you can watch yourself peeing. The latter is definitely one of the weirdest things I have ever encountered. It's like, any moment you spend waiting for anything in Korea, you don't have to worry about being bored, because you can just look at yourself for ages! (And I've seen too many people shamelessly staring at themselves, with the 'mirror face' that everyone seems to put on when they look at themselves.)
One of the many, MANY mirror-selfies my roommate and I have taken in our dormitory elevator. We have since become notorious elevator-selfie experts.
Furthermore, the selfie culture is unavoidable. If you're going to live in Korea, just give in and buy a selfie stick. They are actually kind of cool, despite their crazy impracticality. Haha. But really. I am now used to seeing people take shameless selfies everywhere. Sometimes, they don't just stop at one. My friends and I once saw a couple in a line at Lotte World take -- no joke -- at least 30 selfies over the span of ten minutes. It's like they were never satisfied with just the one selfie. And you have to ask, were they planning on posting all those selfies online? Because in what world would anyone be sitting on their computer going, "ah YES! Jack and Sarah just posted another series of selfies. I am so keen to view them all to see how they worked the change of angle and struggled to find the perfect light!!! I wish I could get the perfect selfie only in 30 takes, just like them!"

The upside: With mirrors everywhere, you never look shabby ;)

5. The need that Koreans seem to have to brush their teeth all the time.
It sounds like such a small thing, but it is so common that it can't go unnoticed. Koreans just, need to brush their teeth apparently. A lot. In between classes, I will go to the girls bathroom and always see at least a couple of girls in there brushing their teeth. Sometimes, there is a crowd of them. It's just weird. I mean, not that it's a bad thing. Good on them! But it's strange! And it seems to be a priority as well. Friends will sometimes delay plans because "sorry, I'm just going to go and brush my teeth first!" and then I will feel like the un-hygienic one who 'forgot' to bring her toothbrush.

One time, a girl started brushing her teeth in the middle of class. I think I genuinely stared, jaw gaping, at her. Just, why?! Why couldn't she wait until afterwards? Or beforehand? Then I couldn't focus on the lesson, because all I could think was, "is she going to swallow that?! Surely not!" (For the record, she didn't. She left class to go to the bathroom once she was done.) Anyway, you've got to admire their persistence and their lack of shame. Keep it up, I say! You Koreans will be laughing when the rest of us grow old and our teeth fall out.
A random Korean child being a good guy and brushing from a young age.
The upside: It inspires you to up your hygene!

So, there you have it, the first half of my list. Tell me what you think! Is it just me, or are these things just a little strange to you too?

Disclaimer: I still love Korea. A lot. Don't hate me, Koreans. Please.

Thanks for reading! I will post the second half of the list ASAP!

Signed in Seoul,

Kristin

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade

1 December 2014

I'll be home for Christmas...


It is a cold, lonely night in Seoul and at 5am, I cannot sleep.

Maybe it's because I made the stupid decision to have 2 coffees in a row at 9pm last night, which resulted in me sitting in a convenience store for a couple of hours, then having a 4-hour conversation with my roommate (unplanned as usual but always better than sleep), which was then followed by me writing a paper for another hour, which put me in a reflective mood.

Or maybe it's because yesterday marked the beginning of my final month here in Seoul. And that is just -- as we exchange students say here -- NoNo!

I knew this time was coming of course, and yes I've still got another 22 days here, but that doesn't make it any less upsetting. I have formed a life here. I have made friendships stronger than I could have ever imagined I would make under such circumstances. Of course I miss my home, but there is something so tragic about saying goodbye to this life which I know I will never have again... Something so heartbreaking about leaving behind these people and knowing that we will never all be together again.

As each month has passed of our exchange experience, we have edged closer to the dreaded December. After the first month, it was 'wow, we are a quarter of the way through, and it went by so fast!' After the second month, it was, 'okay, we are halfway through, that's a bit depressing. Oh well, let's live more!' And now, after the third, we are all talking as if it is already over. 'Oh, I wish I had done more of this', or, 'ah! I never got the chance to do this!' which is so strange, because we still have 3 weeks left (a lot longer than a standard holiday for most people our age).

But, because we have been here for so long, and 3 weeks is nothing, we are sort of wrapping it up, and summing it up in depressing terms.

Maybe it's because life in Seoul has changed. In the last couple of weeks, it hasn't been the same. The air is different, the way in which we interact is different, the recreational activities in which we partake are very different. And why?

Because Christmas.

The decorations are out, the snow is falling (apparently. I have missed it all thanks to my stupid need to sleep in), the carols are playing in shops and cafes, families are seen frolicking together (of course not literally but it seems all the more merry when I am without my family), church vibes are happy, Santa Claus' are a-plenty, couples are extra couple-y and the air is just extra jolly. I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about. It's just, Christmas.



So, naturally, we have all been missing home just that extra bit more. A part of us wants to be home for this Christmas season, but a part of us never wants to leave because now, we are family. For the last three months, we have all been alone and without our loved ones, so we have become each other's loved ones. It's so very cheesy but so very true. Even right now, my roommate sleeps peacefully across from me (I envy her un-coffee-affected slumber) and I cannot help but cherish this time because it is one of the last nights I will hear her sleeping next to me (so creepy but I'm sticking with it).

This blog post is kind of nothing, just a record of my reflections on this cold (freezing), late (now verging on 6am) Seoul evening (morning... my perception of time has become nothing and let's be honest I am nocturnal now).

I have just received word that my family set up their Christmas tree last night. Sticking to tradition, they set it up on the 1st of December (I say 'they' very loosely because I know that it would have mostly been Jenna (she does a beautiful job every year)), and I just know that they will be playing Boney M's Christmas album every day now until Christmas Day. Oh, how I miss it! I eagerly await returning to that environment!

Alas, I am not done here yet! I have not yet left my footprint in Seoul and there is still much work to do (I wish I could say something more inspirational here but if I'm honest, I am referring to my final assignments and exams).

Exchange students, if you're reading this, let's make Seoul our oyster in these last few weeks! The memories I have formed here will never be forgotten. I say that with sincerity. And I plan to make 100 new ones before this month is through!

Signed in Seoul,

Kristin


PS. I'm hungry. Temptation to stay awake until 7am when breakfast is served is peaking. Who bets that I will commit?........... Lol.

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade

2 November 2014

10 Things I love most about Korea: Day 10 - The People

Hello friends, apologies for the wait before this final post in my '10 things' series. It has been half because I was tossing up between a few things to write about and half because I have been battling death via cold (Korea's temperatures have dropped to a solid NOPE). Anyway, here it is, Day 10:

The People

By this, I do not mean to say that the people I have met in Korea are better than the people I know in Sydney. I simply mean that Koreans, with their unique culture and customs, overall behave and interact with people in a manner which I find refreshing and enjoy very much.

Having grown up in Sydney for most of my life, I am accustomed to the ways in which people interact within Sydney, and so have been somewhat ignorant to other cultures. I never thought I was very ignorant, but travelling abroad has opened my eyes to how little I know about the world. Of course, it is no secret that there are many Koreans in Sydney, but they obviously cannot practice their culture there in the same ways in which they could in Seoul.

And so, I had heard things from my Korean-Australian friends, but only now have I been able to see it all take place before my eyes. I will attempt to summarise what I mean below.

Korean and Exchange Students together in friendship! <3
The first thing I have noticed about most Koreans here, is that they are very friendly to foreigners (especially the ajimas). I often receive friendly smiles from randoms, exchange small but enthusiastic talk with taxi drivers, get praised by strangers for my "good Korean" (lies) and my ego has inflated more than I care to admit because of how kind and full-of-compliments Korean people are. It often starts with "where are you from?" "이쁘다! (Pretty)" or just a simple "HELLO!" (Always enthusiastic because they are happy that they know how to greet you in English). It is super cute and I always either blush or get super excited when someone new talks to me. 

Korean people can really be quite benevolent and it is pleasant to be in the company of them! I have noticed, when I talk to my fellow Korean friends on KakaoTalk, that they use a lot of exclamation marks (if you are a Korean friend of mine reading this, I love it, don't stop please), and so I am always reading their messages in my head in a REALLY ENTHUSIASTIC SHOUTING VOICE!!! The enthusiasm peaks face to face as well, because they are also incredibly forward. They often will not hold back from giving compliments, saying things that we normally wouldn't say out loud or just openly staring at you, no matter how awkward it may be for us foreigners.

I crave it.

On the downside of this, their forwardness and honesty unfortunately also mean that they do not hesitate to point out when you do not look your best. The following are comments I have received from various Koreans during my stay here:

"You look tired. You should sleep." (I wasn't tired)

"Are you sick?" (Again, I wasn't)

"You have a small head." (Said out of nowhere)

"Your profile is too erotic." (????)

And, my favourite,

"You look like a camel."

I imagine that my dear Korean friends meant well when they said these things, but when you are on the receiving end of such comments, you are sort of left in an awkward state of, "... what do I say to that??" I often laugh, and then I feel bad, because the look of confusion on their faces is real.

One aspect of their niceness which is annoying to us foreigners, is that Koreans (especially the women) are too humble! And so they often retaliate to compliments with:

Me: "You look so pretty!"
Korean: "NO, you are more pretty!"

Me: "You are smart!"
Korean: "NO, I am not smart!"

Me: "I like your hair colour!"
Korean: "NO, don't look at it!"

^ Three genuine responses I have received. Of course, they always say so with a smile and are very thankful. Koreans are so cute, because they can be so shy! (The generalisations are real here. Of course there are Koreans who are not as shy as others, but in my experience, a lot of them have been, and they actually claim it's because they are nervous in front of foreigners).

I love my Korean friends because they are so caring, honest and they will go out of their way to help me so much! On my first and second day here, one of my dearest Korean friends travelled around the city of Seoul with me, trying to run just ONE annoying errand of mine, and he did not complain once (thanks HJ!), another friend was there on the phone to translate for me when I was at a hair salon in which no one spoke English (thanks Mary!), another left his study to call up his Uncle who worked at a hair salon in order to ensure we got best service (thanks KJ!) and another stayed back after class to show me how to use CyberCampus (thanks, random Korean girl whose name I don't know!). Their hearts are large and their motives are pure, and for that I am highly grateful!! ^^

At this point, I have to take a moment to mention H.U.G (Hands Up for Gathering), a society on campus which is made up of English-speaking Korean students. Their sole purpose is to help make our time as Exchange Students 100 times easier and super rewarding! They are always there to answer our questions, to guide us around Seoul and without them, we would be a lot less educated on the ins and outs of Seoul! They have even organised field trips and tutoring specifically for us (not an easy job - there are 230 of us) and with no profit for themselves. They just want to make friends with us, and we are so grateful :D

Some of the exchange students at a field trip to Gyeongbok Palace - organised by H.U.G.
Indeed, I love these guys. I have made friendships here that are sure to last a lifetime.

In general, I have appreciated the forwardness of Koreans. In one of my previous blog posts, I mentioned that once, a group of Koreans approached my friend and I and offered to buy us a round of beers. We ended up bonding and having an awesome night together! Also, once, my roommate and I were at a McDonald's in Sinchon, and we noticed a group of three boys staring at us. We did not think much of it, and after they left, we stayed there for a while longer. Eventually, we left, and as we began walking down the street, one of the boys ran up to us out of nowhere and said, "I want to be your international friend!" It made us feel so special! Indeed, we have heard this line many times since then, as well as the following line, which is music to my ears every time:

"You are my first international friend!"

I love hearing this, because Korea has given me so much, and I am so thankful to be able to give something back to the people, even if only the opportunity to practice their English. I am often in awe at how excited Korean people (especially people of my age) get at the opportunity to be friends with us. They listen to us talk with wide eyes and crave our "worldly knowledge" (lol plz). Sometimes I can't believe that there are 21yr-olds here who have never met an international person before! But I love it. And I love that we can appreciate each other for everything we are: with our individual cultures, values, customs and views on life. I love that we can learn from each other and share our experiences with one another and create life-long memories together!!

So thank you to all my beautiful Korean friends I have made here.  It hurts my heart to think of the day I will leave you, but I love you all and I can't wait to be friends with you for life! ^^

<3 <3 <3

Signed in Seoul,
Kristin

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade

27 October 2014

10 Things I love most about Korea - Day 9: The Fashion

안녕하세요!!!

I was away for the weekend and unfortunately didn't get the chance to update my blog, so sorry for the delay but here is day 9!

The Fashion

There is actually nothing that really defines Seoul fashion as exclusively Korean, as far as I have seen. This city is one of the most fashionable I have seen, and fashions are actually quite similar to those in Australia. There are, however a few differences!



Just in general, fashion is a bit more outrageous than Sydney. You will see lots of crazy designs and accessories, and people walking around in bazar outfits that to an Australian, don't seem quite right.

Seoul is all about the aesthetics. That's why there are so many shopping districts, so many models, so many giant billboards, so much advertising, so many fashion icons, so many makeup/skin shops, (unfortunately) so many plastic surgeons and SO. MANY. MIRRORS. (Seriously, the amount of mirrors is ridiculous and sometimes they are in the weirdest places, such as in a toilet cubicle so that you can look at yourself whilst you're doing your business - so strange.) So, because of this, you will often be amongst people who are well-dressed and so it is very important that you bring your A-game (regrets, cause I brought with me to Korea the most boring pieces of clothing I own :P).

I will try and sum up the fashion here by pointing out what I have noticed to be the most common trends:
  1. University Jackets: This wasn't something that I noticed too much in summer, but now that it is winter, the varsity jackets have been coming out. I am convinced that every student in Seoul owns one, because I see them everywhere. It's kind of cool because the design for these jackets is the same across all the universities, with the only differences being the name of the uni on the back and sometimes the colour. For example, students on my campus will wear one that says 'Sogang Univ.' on the back, and another student on the street might wear a jacket that looks exactly the same, except his will say 'Yonsei Univ.' on the back. So, you can tell who all the students are here! I feel it is definitely the default jacket that students just bring with them on cold days, because these days, everyone is wearing them. They are very warm, which is a bonus!!

    The jackets are personalised further by having a different colour design for every major (I'm not sure if this is how it works at other universities but at Sogang, this is the case). For example, the students who are Business majors will have a maroon colour, with 'Sogang Univ. School of Business' written on the back, whereas Economics majors will have a navy blue colour, with 'School of Economics' written on the back. For every major, there is a different colour. Students are also able to add a customised name to the sleeve of the jackets, and each jacket also has the school's logo on it.
    Dankook Univ. Jacket

    Hanyang Univ. Jacket

    Korea Univ. Jacket. You can make out the different logos on the sleeves.

    Sogang Univ. Jacket

    Yonsei Univ. Jacket
  2. Short skirts: I don't know why, but Korean girls seem to crave the very short skirts. They are often circle skirts as well, so one gust of wind and it is game over. In Korea, it is inappropriate to show your shoulders or your chest, but okay to show your legs and midriff. So there is lots of that going on.

    What baffles my mind is that it is now winter, and girls are still wearing these skirts! And you have to understand that the Seoul winter so far is unlike anything I have experienced in Sydney. It is SO cold. So I just stare in awe and disbelief at girls who choose to wear the short skirts. Sometimes, they pair the skirts with really warm, fluffy jackets, which confuses me even more.

    I have tried to find some generic pictures on the internet of the kind of thing I am talking about, because I felt like it was weird for me to take pictures of women's legs for the sake of this blog:

    Walking up and down stairs in this skirt would be a definite nono.



    If you come to Seoul, please do not give in to this temptation. It is not worth the awkwardness when that gust of wind comes.

  3. Oversized jumpers with random words on them: I will never understand how they come up with some of the words to put on these jumpers. In the first few weeks, I just kept asking, 'why?!!?!' But now I have come to accept that it's 'just fashion'. It 'doesn't have to mean anything' (worst). I am a massive fan of the over-sized jumpers. They are comfortable and modest. Take a look at some of these examples:



  4. Masks: I really don't understand this one. I think it's because Korean air has been known to be quite polluted and so people don't want to get sick, but I think it is also just a fashion piece a lot of the time as well:

  5. Joggers: Whatever you want to call them (sneakers, tackies, runners etc), they are everywhere here. Koreans wear them with any style of clothing. I have seen even the most classy suited-up gentlemen wearing pairs of joggers. Some of them are plain, others in outrageous colours, and some really over-worn and old-looking. I can't quite understand why, but it is definitely a thing here. It's confusing, because I know that Koreans care so much about clothes and their appearance. But then I will see these well-dressed men in a pair of old tackies and I will be like, 'why?! Genuinely why?!' It's as if the feet don't count. I mean, it's kind of clever and I am cool with it because it means walking is easy and comfortable, but I just don't know how it started.
  6. Cartoon prints: Cartoon prints are very common, and I crave it. I am a massive fan of cartoon prints, so this is definitely my place. The most common prints you will see are Disney, Marvel and Looney Toons. I am okay with all three of them.



  7. Those weird skirts that look like jackets tied around your waist: I'm not sure how I feel about these, but yeah. They're a thing.



  8. Snapbacks: This is last because I love these things and I am SO happy that I am in a country where it is acceptable to wear them without looking like a try-hard. I think they look great on most people and there are so many different options here. Everywhere you go, you will see snapbacks for sale. Some are only $5, and others are $100. I usually cannot handle shopping because I always see snapbacks that I want and the designs here are SO. FLIPPING. COOL. I have six new snapbacks and I will leave behind some of my precious clothes if I have to, in order to bring them back with me to Australia. Either that or I will wear a multi-layered snapback on the plane ;) Snapbacks are common in most places, and are worn by people of all ages.
    This is a common print in Korea. You can find it on shirts, pants, hats, accessories and a lot of K-Pop stars wear this design in music videos.

    I saw this hat once and had regrets for not buying it on the spot.


    A less-outrageous design.


    These are often what snapback-stalls look like. Stalls like this will typically sell snapbacks for anywhere between $5-$20 


    A shot of Girls Generation (the most well-known K-Pop group worldwide) donning some awesome snapbacks.
So there you have it: All I could find time to write about before heading to my class at 7pm tonight. In general, I really enjoy Korean fashion. However, I do not enjoy Korean shopping because there are NO CHANGE-ROOMS ANYWHERE. But more on that later. Here is a picture of a couple of street shops in Hongdae:


Hongdae has some awesome street shops, and I have definitely been there for shopping more than anywhere. You can see on the racks here a lot of things which I have written about above!

Here is a brief list of things you WON'T see in Korea:

  1. Ugg Boots
  2. Singlets of any kind (unless you're looking at someone who's in the gym). NO WIFE-BEATERS thank goodness.
  3. Thongs (this one seems strange but I definitely haven't seen any so far. I am still not convinced though, so I will keep on the look-out).

Thank you, as always, for reading!

Signed in Seoul,
Kristin

Kristin is supported by the Australian Government through the Australia-Korea Foundation of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade